Wedding Talk with David Tutera

05/05/2016 By David Tutera

When it comes to budgeting for your wedding, should you follow the rule of using percentages per category? Should you try to save money and be a D.I.Y bride? David has the answers…

Yes, I do think that you should assign a percentage of your budget to each category in the planning, but you move the percentages around to accommodate what you want. The top three things are: catering, entertainment and event design. They are the three top costs in a wedding. If you walk in there and say you want a cake that is too expensive, then you are too shocked when you can’t afford other areas that cost more.

You can’t skimp on areas in your wedding that sacrifice the comfort of your guests. That is, to me, the most important thing. If a pair of shoes is going to cost you a lot of money and you pull it out of somewhere else where your guests would appreciate, that is when I say take the selfish veil off and don’t do that because your guests are not going to remember your shoes, I am sorry to say. They’re not.

Being your own wedding planner is the worst thing you can possibly do. If you can’t afford a wedding planner, ask someone to be your day-of wedding planner. Someone you can trust, someone who says they will be your wedding planner. I’ve seen this many times where that person winds up slamming down the drinks at the bar and you’ve got a wedding planner who is missing in action. So, you need to find someone who may also not even be a guest at your wedding; it can be a co-worker. But you need to find someone who is going to be executing the minute details of your wedding day.

I just went to a wedding a couple of weeks ago, and all I watched was the bride and the groom and the parents looking over their shoulders to make sure that things were getting done and then leaving the room to make sure things were getting done. You can’t do that. You have to be a guest at your own wedding.

I don’t mind brides being a little hands-on when it comes to crafting or being a little bit hands-on when it comes to putting together some projects. To me, it is a great way to take a budget and make it work by adding personality, I think that’s fantastic. There is nothing wrong with doing things yourself, as long as you are planning the process so you are not doing things the week of the wedding.

If you are prepared and organized, which is the harder part of everything I talk about, you can actually have fun at your wedding.