Stop Trying to Solve the World with Unusual Gifts

05/05/2016 By David Tutera

Stop trying to solve the world with unusual gifts!

Wedding favors to me, are the last on the list. Unfortunately it’s typically one of the first things brides tend to purchase - because it’s easy to go online and find a wedding favor.  I don’t believe in them needing to be a necessity, I believe in them being something that, if you have the funds to do them, awesome!  But at the end of the day, how many people take home the favors, leave them in the car, hotel, don’t want to take them, and there’s $1,000-2,000, sometimes more, wasted!  Save the money!  Use it towards something else that’s going to be more spectacular, and don’t feel obligated to do favors.  People are not expecting them!

To overcome any guilt, send a thank you note after the wedding.  I explain to my brides, depending if they do videography, you could do a 3-minute edit of your wedding, put it in a card, and send it as a thank you. You could do a great photo with a thank you card. I am fine with just a thank you card! If your wedding is awesome and great, not tons of money spent, but it’s intimate or it’s got a story, and you feel the love or you feel the experience, a favor doesn’t make that wedding a great wedding.

Bridal party and gifts for your parents are different.  These are typically more personal and thoughtful, a great way to show your gratitude.  Do you have to get the same thing for every gal in the bridesmaid party, no! If you’ve got the time and you want to personalize that gift to each person (their style or their personality) awesome!  Traditional things for guys are tie tacks, money clips, cuff links; all of these things are wonderful things to give. You could even do a mini-iPod shuffle.  There are many things you can do for your wedding party that are usable for them!  Jewelry that you give the girls, of course is always safe. And of course, you can give the girls a great pair of shoes!  My line of bridal shoes is very affordable.  These are shoes they can wear beyond the day of the wedding.

I think everyone’s trying to solve the world with unusual gifts, and I think when you walk away from the wedding and someone’s using something far beyond the walk down the aisle, that’s the gift itself. 


David Tutera is an American celebrity wedding planner, bridal fashion designer, designer, author and professional speaker. He is the host of WE tv’s show, My Fair Wedding with David Tutera and the author of seven books.  He recently expanded his brand two include a footwear and accessories collection.  For more information visit